A soul tie can be defined as an invisible string that keeps you still attached to a particular person. A soul tie is an unhealthy bond which still keeps you attached to that person in the spiritual world. Soul ties can become demonic in origin.
God intented for us to have a loving relationship with one another.In friendship for example God has created a soul tie that exists on the basis of love: “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother”(Prov.18:24). God intented for us to have friends that would become closer to us than our brother or sister. A friend is someone who will help you in times of need and a friend is usually impartial. we can choose our friends and we choose them very carefully. We choose them on qualities that are close to ours, qualities we can relate to. Friends usually fill the gaps in our personalities, they compliment us.
By becoming close to our friends we form a sort of close bond, a so called soul tie. When the friendship becomes strained, we usually have emotions like pain and resentment. Those soul ties which were once good, will now become stained and will keep us attached to that person if we do not break them. The same goes for soul ties within a congregation. If the congregation is healthy, you build up healthy soul ties. But when the congregation turns unhealthy through erroneous doctrine, power struggle or other reasons, soul ties will become unhealthy. The reason is that the manipulations and unhealthy demands of the church elders. This happens when they start to demand unquestionalbe loyalty to them, even though their demands are unbiblical. Soul ties formed in such congregations will soon turn into demonic soul ties. Once you leave such a church and soul ties have not been broken, you will suffer from their outworkings. One of such outworkings is unforgiveness towards the church elders, lack of trust in other/new church/church members.
Within the marriage the concept of soul ties goes even deeper. In marriage through sexual union, a couple becomes one flesh. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”(Gen.2:24). This means that in the eyes of God a couple becomes one flesh instead of two. God also has said that what he has joined together, we may not put asunder (Matt 19:6). This means that we may not separate it. Through the closeness of the union, a couple builds up healthy soul ties. When one of the partners violates the trust of this union by fornication or adultery, a demonic soul tie enters into the relationship and destroys the union once created on the basis of love and trust. Trust, whenever shattered, very difficult even at times t completely impossible to rebuild. This ends up destroying the marriage altogether.
After such a violation of that trust, couples usually start to fight and strife quite often, which often leads to divorce. When a partner whose trust has been shattered by the behaviour of the other will not forgive that behaviour, an unhealthy soul tie enters that relationship. The same goes for the fornication or adultery committed, the soul ties wiht the person that the action has been committed with needs to be broken. The unhealthy soul tie that one builds up with a partner outside the marriage is very stained. This soul tie will lead to more of such behaviour outside the marriage if not broken quickly. This is why we see a behavioural repetition of such iniquity. We all have heard the expression once a cheater, always a cheater. This is the reason why.
It is also very important to note that if a person commits adultery or fornication while married, this person establishes a soul tie with that person he or she committed adultery or fornication with. This is why most of the times, after this sin, the person cannot go back to his or her partner or spouse to be fully committed to them again. He has left a part of his soul with that person. What happens is that this person will not be satisfied anymore with a sexual relationship within the marriage and goes sinning with adultery in order to fulfill this aroused lust. This behaviour of course, will often lead to divorce. That is why we see that divorced couples of which forniation or adultery is the reason for their divorce, have so much issues of hatred, bitterness and much more. This is due to the unhealthy soul ties which have developed because of the sin of fornication and adultery.
“What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body”(1 Cor 6:16-18).
Take heed of this summon from Paul. Our bodies are the temples where the Holy Spirit resides (1 Cor. 3:16). Fornication and adultery are based on lust and never on love and therefore they are sin. Sins are driven by demonic forces trying to get you to commit that sin. In a case of adultery or fornication you will built up demonic soul ties with the person you committed adultery with. Not to mention the demons you will be transferring to your spouse, because when you become one flesh, especially outside of marriage you are not protected by the blood of Jesus. The result is that demons that you obtained by that particular sin will be transferred to your spouse Illicit sexual relationships will always transfer demons from one person to the other!
In my experience people who committed the sins of adultery and fornication usually end up with emotions which where strange to them. These emotions came to that person due to the illicit action. Usually the emtions are the emotions and sins of the partner whith whom the sin was committed with. it is not unusual for people who committ the sins of adultery or fornication to become very angry, more on edge, and nervous. These emotions usually go together with behaviours outside which God condones. These are actually legal doorways for demons of fear, anger and the like to take hold of such a person. Often enough such a person will loose their self-contol and become marionets in the hands of demons of lust and self-destruction.
The same goes for people who have sex with the same sex. These people usually have strong demons of lust. It is seldom that these couples stay faithful to one another. Many a homosexual and lesbian couple is characterized by illicite sex. This of course opens the doors to all kind of demons and establishes very unhealty soul ties. Other sources of unhealty soul ties can be the unhealthy relationship that sometimes can exist between mother and daughter or son and mother. Some parents just seem to have difficulty in letting their children go and live their own lives. Even after these have married many a son, daughter, father or mother find it difficult to cut the umbilical cord with one another. This also creates unhealthy soul ties, which will do much damage in both involved parties' lives. Children with this problem often recur and rely to much on their parents and are unable to make life changing decisions on their own. This strains their marriage and it is not unusual for such a marriage to break off because of this. When a daughter or a son marries, the soul tie with the parents will automatically be broken, and a new soul tie will be formed with the spouse. Examples of this can be found in Genesis 2:24 and Ephesians 5:31. But when the soul tie is not healthy, and the umbilical cord with the parent is not broken and thus still existant, the soul tie becomes demonic. When a soul tie is not broken, a spiritual channel is formed, and evil spirits will attach themselves to it.
God has given us boundaries. Boundaries in marriage, friendship, and in society. We ought to respect those boundaries for our own good. The Holy Spirit cannot work in relationships that have unhealthy soul ties. Unbroken soul ties will weaken your character, and will reinforce your pains and keep you tied to the past or to persons in the past.One important fact to mention here is that people who whree highly involved iin the occult and are now Christians, might still have those unhealthy soul ties with them if they have not broken them off already. This might be the reason why a Christian sitll feels a hang to the occult. This is called spiritual adultery. You need to know that whenever you go to a fortune teller or a diviner of any sort, you leave something of yourself behind, your soul, and you will attain something of the diviner, his soul.
This is why many Christians still have weakness for the occult or have difficulty forgetting the things predicted to them by these people. “There shall not be found among you any one that maketh his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, or that useth divination, or an observer of times, or an enchanter, or a witch, Or a charmer, or a consulter with familiar spirits, or a wizard, or a necromancerFor all that do these things are an abomination unto the LORD: and because of these abominations the LORD thy God doth drive them out from before thee.”(Deut.18:10-12)
You need to know that whenever we overstep God’s set boundaries for us, we will form unehalthy or demonic soul ties. These will make your life very difficul. However, the good news is, there is hope. You can breake them and you can be relieved and delivered out of all those past memories, hurts and pains, even from people form the past. I remember when I broke my soul ties, I felt literally like if an elastic cord was thrown back at me. I felt that all evil things that did not belong to me in the first place left me, and the things that belonged to me came back to me. It was quite a relief. One word of caution, breaking a soul tie will not make your own evil sin to go away. That is something quite different and you have to deal with it on a different level. However, what will come back to you is that what you spiritually left behind with the other person. The same goes for that which that person left with you, willgo back to that person.
Breaking soul ties is simple. Make a list of all sexual relationships you had in the past, of all friendships you had that ended, make a list of all unhealthy relationships you had with people as well. Confess your sin to God , and ask Him for forgiveness. You need to forgive every person individually and confess every sin committed with that particular person. Then ask God to severe any soul tie that has been formed with that person. Command all evil spirits attached to that soul tie to leave you in the name of Jesus at once and for ever. Last but not least, command Satan to give you back what he has stolen from you.